We all want our wedding day to be the happiest day of our lives and while it usually is - The getting there can be a whole different thing!
Planning a wedding can become a major source of stress for a number of reasons - By tackling these situation head-on, you can end the chaos and enjoy the planning stages of your wedding and of course, the day itself. Here’s how.
Controlling Parents Taking Over
Generally parents have the best intentions and when such an important celebration involves their little girl they may become overly enthusiastic and can unintentionally cause more harm than good. This situation becomes overwhelming and is difficult to know how to handle.
When dealing with parents and future in-laws who disagree on guest lists, budgets and style issues, it’s important that you and your fiancé present a united front. In getting married, you’re establishing yourselves as a family unit so confront these things together and stand strong.
Some parents may even use their financial contribution as weight in influencing decisions. While you should always be grateful for their contributions if they don't quite fit in with your vision explain how you appreciate what they are doing and discuss what an alternative would mean to you. In the end your parents will only want to do what makes you happy.
If your parents are paying for the wedding, make sure the in-laws are aware of your budget. If they then want to increase the guest list beyond what’s budgeted, you can diplomatically request that they contribute the difference in cost.
on the topic of in-laws - If your mother-in-law tends to be the sort to offer unsolicited advice, let her know you appreciate her genuine interest in your day and find ways for her to contribute in areas that are non-crucial to your vision.
Remember this can be a great opportunity to build relationships with your fiancé’s family.
Above all be honest with your family; it’s your day, and it's ok to remind them of that. While compromise is often important, so is standing your ground on the issues that matter most to you.
Sibling Rivalry
Sadly sibling rivalry doesn’t disappear........read more
Planning a wedding can become a major source of stress for a number of reasons - By tackling these situation head-on, you can end the chaos and enjoy the planning stages of your wedding and of course, the day itself. Here’s how.
Controlling Parents Taking Over
Generally parents have the best intentions and when such an important celebration involves their little girl they may become overly enthusiastic and can unintentionally cause more harm than good. This situation becomes overwhelming and is difficult to know how to handle.
When dealing with parents and future in-laws who disagree on guest lists, budgets and style issues, it’s important that you and your fiancé present a united front. In getting married, you’re establishing yourselves as a family unit so confront these things together and stand strong.
Some parents may even use their financial contribution as weight in influencing decisions. While you should always be grateful for their contributions if they don't quite fit in with your vision explain how you appreciate what they are doing and discuss what an alternative would mean to you. In the end your parents will only want to do what makes you happy.
If your parents are paying for the wedding, make sure the in-laws are aware of your budget. If they then want to increase the guest list beyond what’s budgeted, you can diplomatically request that they contribute the difference in cost.
on the topic of in-laws - If your mother-in-law tends to be the sort to offer unsolicited advice, let her know you appreciate her genuine interest in your day and find ways for her to contribute in areas that are non-crucial to your vision.
Remember this can be a great opportunity to build relationships with your fiancé’s family.
Above all be honest with your family; it’s your day, and it's ok to remind them of that. While compromise is often important, so is standing your ground on the issues that matter most to you.
Sibling Rivalry
Sadly sibling rivalry doesn’t disappear........read more
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